Problems with adult children and dating
New Beginnings I strongly encourage both adult stepchildren and the new couple to educate themselves about stepfamily living.There is a labyrinth of emotion and practical transitions to work through and it takes understanding and effort by both generations. That’s the beautiful thing about love—there’s always room for one more! Dating a man with grown children will also require you to interact with the kids from time to time.Don't let these issues scare you off if you are really into your man, but do remain realistic.But adult stepchildren and older stepparents still have many emotional issues to work through, feel threatened by each other, and struggle with how the new marriage will impact familiar family relationships. The New Couple When Daniel’s 35 year-old son told him that he “just wanted him to be happy” the widower assumed his son was giving him permission to remarry. What the son meant was, “I would hope that mom’s memory will keep you happy enough.” Daniel assumed he had his son’s blessing and got married.
Some of the transitional issues are different, but many are the same.The circumstances may allow the two of you a lot of alone time to date and travel, or he may be constantly bogged down with parental duties and ex-wife encounters.If you want to date a man with grown children, you must accept the fact that his family likely comes first in his life.Adult Stepchildren It is very important that you begin by acknowledging your own strong emotions about your parent’s remarriage.The feelings mentioned above are very common; if you don’t take ownership and responsibility of them, they may lead you into withdrawal, criticism, or hurtful behavior.